Physical and Psychological effects of Stress at Work


Since people spend an important part of their lives at work and work related stress is very common, it is very important to identify the consequences of work stress. This is not only because stress is unpleasant, but also because long-term work stress can affect your health severely. You should not only think of effects on mental health (e.g. over-strain and burnout) but also effects on your physical health.workstress

Many people are familiar with the phenomenon of stress. It is a widely accepted concept in society and everyone has problems with it. Yet it is a condition that many people think very lightly of. Many people think that stress generally does not hurt very much. However, this is a gross misconception. Stress can cause many problems.

In this hectic society in which we live, it is therefore something more common than ever before. For that reason it is important to pay attention to it. What are the consequences of stress at work?

Healthy/unhealthy stress 

First a little bit on healthy stress. It may sound strange, but it still exists. Many people have no idea what to think about with healthy stress, but no doubt you’ve experienced it. Healthy stress is a natural process of the body, which ensures that you as an individual perform better. In what situations does that occur? This can occur in different situations, but generally it happens when people are put on the spot.

Contrary to this is the real unhealthy stress which is caused by many reasons, lasts a long time and which I have fully described in my previous article which can be accessed here. So, now we can go on to the physical and psychological consequences of stress.

Physical consequences from stress

work stressThe physical consequences that can occur with stress are somewhat similar to the regular symptoms you can get from burnout. Think of heart palpitations to name a serious one. But headaches and stomachaches are also consequences of stress. The tricky part is that these are fairly common complaints. Everyone sometimes has problems with their stomach.

It is difficult to recognize these complaints when occurring. It is therefore often a culmination of physical and psychological complaints, making it easier to diagnose burnout.

Shortness of breath and insomnia

Other physical consequences that can play out are, for example, shortness of breath and insomnia. For example, do you often have trouble breathing? And do you generally sleep very badly? In both cases, these can even be symptoms of burnout. Taking action is therefore sensible in such situations.

General fatigue is also a strong indication of burnout. Especially when you are tired for no apparent reason. Everyone is tired sometimes. This generally should not be a problem. This can happen, for example, through poor sleep. Or when, for example, you have exercised very intensively. Or because you are in a busy period in your life.

But should the fatigue persist for a long time and is there no clear indication for it? In that case it can be related to a stress issue, which should be eliminated.

Weakened immune system

A weakened immune system can be one of the consequences of this chronic weakened immune systemstress. This is because less chronic blood cells can be present in your body during chronic stress. White blood cells play an important role in your immune system. When there are fewer white blood cells in your body, your body is less able to defend itself against “invaders” (bacteria, parasites and viruses). Consequently this gives you an increased chance of flu and colds, for example.

Take notice when you have these symptoms

In summary, here are some of the physical complaints due to stress, which you should be aware of:

Stomach ache
Pressure on the chest
High blood pressure

Do not take these just for granted and when persisting, take some action. Be sure to know if those illnesses could be work related. Take a few days off and when the symptoms disappear, note that it probably is work related. In this case you need to look in the mirror and ask yourself what you do not like in your work.

Psychological consequences of stress

Not only the physical, but surely the mental problems can be a result of long-work stressterm stress. Often these are accompanied by the physical symptoms and thus form an overall picture. For example, one of the things that results from stress is uncertainty. This is common in people under long pressure. They often fear that they are not doing well.

Chronic stress negatively affects your psychological well-being. Chronic stress can disrupt your brain. Different areas of the brain do not work as normal or are even damaged due to long-term stress. Among other things, stress has a negative influence on our rational and emotional system.

Stress can therefore play a role in the development of mood disorders (such as depression) and anxiety disorders. Stress can also be a trigger that leads to psychotic complaints. When stress continues to accumulate for a long time, you eventually become exhausted and over-strain can result in a burnout.

You feel dejected

For example, someone with stress is afraid of making mistakes at work. This fear can also occur in daily life. For example in home situations. Have I turned the gas off? In addition, a general depressed feeling is also a typical result of stress. This has almost the same symptoms as mild depression. It may be that you don’t feel like doing anything anymore, or that you no longer get pleasure from things that you used to enjoy.

How can this depression be expressed in concrete terms? That is of course important to know, because depression is a fairly general concept. The following example may make it clear. Suppose, for example, that you enjoy watching movies all your life. At some point, however, you don’t like watching movies anymore. This may then have to do with a stress. You can no longer enjoy things that you used to like.

You will be irritable

Irritability is also common. For example, it is possible that people with long-feeling annoyedterm stress get angry very quickly. This is because they are no longer in control of emotions. This allows them to behave very inappropriate in situations where this is not necessary. Panic attacks and crying bumps are also typical consequences of long-term stress. So stress can be very serious and for that reason you should always watch out. Always try to be there on time, so you reduce the chance of real big problems.

Do you recognize these symptoms?

There are many more symptoms that tell you, that you could be in a stressful situation. Check the following as well:

You are unable to relax
You have periods of doom and gloom, crying spells, worrying, fear
You are no longer able to enjoy, you are listless and lifeless
You are indecisive, have a loss of concentration and are forgetful
You feel insecure and have less confidence

In addition to all of the above, there can even be changes to your personality. See under.

Typical behavioral changes

drink more alcoholIf you discover any of the below symptoms or anyone is warning you, then please take heed:

You perform less and make more mistakes
There is more and more smoking, alcohol or drugs
There will be increasing use of sleeping pills and tranquilizers
You will be increasingly avoiding social contacts

Final thoughts

People tend to ignore these phenomena or think they will pass on their own. However, the reverse is true. Because the stress ensures that you no longer find the peace and relaxation you need to cope with the stressful situation or your stress goes from bad to worse.

A long-term overdose of stress can make people overworked. You become more and more exhausted, often get very emotional and even the ordinary everyday things become more and more difficult.

Sometimes the overload is so great that rest alone no longer helps. We speak of burnout, you literally have no energy anymore.

Do not let it come this far, but leave the boss or company, or my recommendation: start for yourself, become your own boss. You can do this in your free time, next to your regular job. Here is the link to my review on the world’s best opportunity on making money on the side.

13 Major Causes of work Stress – Be Aware!


If you suffer from work stress, it is important to learn why you experience this stress. Work stress is often linked to a high workload: work that is too much or too difficult. But did you know that too easy work, in which you do not find a challenge, can also be a reason for work stress? As you will see there are different types of stress and not all are bad, as there is such a thing as healthy work stress.causes of work stress

Also, some things can stress the one person while someone else does not feel the pressure. For example, a task change: one finds this challenging, while another absolutely does not want it. It illustrates how important it is that you have work that gives you satisfaction and what suits you.

Those who are very busy also suffer the most from stress. You would think. However, this is often not the case. Most work stress is due to other issues, which you should be aware of and I like to point out below.

Healthy stress

Here, you can think of giving a presentation. Many people find giving a presentation quite scary. You have the full attention of an audience and this makes you feel very watched. In addition, generally bad thoughts are going through your head. Am I going to fail? I hope it goes well! I will soon forget my text. Things like that can all go through your mind. So this is a form of stress. Your heart rate often goes up even more. In other words, you are a bit sharper than usual.

healthy stressThis is especially important during a presentation because you can present better. It makes you sharper. You may have experienced the following. You are very tired. You are not sharp at all. But then you get into a nerve-racking situation and that fatigue disappears like snow in the sun. That is a typical form of stress. You are suddenly alert.

Needless to say that this needs not concern you very much.

Unhealthy stress

With healthy stress, the stress should generally disappear once the exciting situation has ended. This is the essential difference with unhealthy stress. In general, unhealthy stress is stress that lasts for a longer period. I have described the consequences of unhealthy work stress in this article. The complaints are therefore long-lasting. This can be very unhealthy in the long and even the short term. For this reason, this article will focus on unhealthy stress at the work place.

Causes of work stress

In fact, there are many causes of work stress, some of which might be very subtle ( the way somebody smells). Here are some not so subtle:

  1. You have a high workload (due to too much or too complicated work) or too low a workload
  2. You have work that is too easy for you, no challenges and boredom sets in
  3. Uncertainty about your tasks – bad job description or none at all
  4. You have a bad relationship or a conflict with your supervisor or a colleague
  5. You are not being appreciated
  6. Uncertainty about the future of your job and/or companycauses of work stress

and a number of other factors, which annoy us individually at some time or another. Here I would like to mention 13 major stress causes and what can be done about it.

13 Major causes of work stress

1. It is unclear what my supervisor expects from me

This is one of the main causes of work stress, and executives can do something about it by being clear from day one about what the company expects from its employees, and what the manager himself expects of them. And also: what the employee himself can expect from his manager and from the company. This should start immediately after entering (from the employee or manager) or immediately after a restart of the company or part thereof. Being immediately clear removes a lot of uncertainty and helps well against work stress.

So, now you know what to expect and you can adjust to it or not. But in any case you should be clear of what is coming to you.

2. Business goals seem contradictory, colleagues seem to be working against each other

what to do?Every person should know which way to go, job descriptions clear and the same counts for the various departments and their competencies. So, one should invest in team building and all kinds of other activities that promote mutual understanding. This reduces the risk of conflicts due to misunderstandings, and it increases mutual communication between business units.

3. Uncertainty of extra work that could be coming

As an employee this can highly disturb your entire working routine.

As a manager, take this fear seriously. Commit additional training and development opportunities when other tasks are added. If it is mainly the amount of work that is increasing, make sure that people can do the work more autonomously and more flexibly. So more time organizing themselves, possibly more homework. And hire a few more people, if possible …

4. How long do I keep my job and how long will this company last?

The main weapon against this existential fear is to let employees talk more, more intensively and better about their work and the way they do it. This creates confidence in each other’s skills and competences. And trust that you can get the job done together. It creates better teamwork, so very necessary in each company.

5. Other talents, skills, knowledge, competences are required

It must be clear why the company wants this, why it is necessary and what the connection is with the (medium) long-term goals. Also you should be aware of what development opportunities and career paths there are, within and outside the company, to grow to the required level.

6. Overload

If the range of tasks is too large and employees cannot overcome it, there is atoo much work chance that they will become overloaded. Sometimes resulting in burn-out and a long absence. A staff shortage can also play a role. Some sectors suffer from a chronic shortage of personnel, which means that one person has to do the work of two (or even more) people. You should ask your management to find solutions immediately.

7. Underload

Employees who have to do the same thing all the time, but actually have more to offer? If you do not pay attention to this, this can lead to a so-called bore-out among your staff. Employees who no longer feel that they are doing meaningful work can be stressed by this.

8. An unsuitable workplace

It may seem like an afterthought, but it surely is not. A workplace determines how an employee feels. Too much or too little light, too much noise, sitting too close to each other or a bad desk where you are sitting in a completely wrong position. These are all factors that undermine the feeling of well-being in the workplace. See my corresponding article here.

9. Feeling misunderstood

An employer who takes his employees to a higher level? This is especially possible if employees feel understood. Do you hardly give your staff confidence and support? Then they are more likely to start with negative feelings. Therefore adequate communication is very necessary and this should never stop.

10. Working irregularly

too much overtimeWeekend work, (night) shifts and overtime: it is often a source of stress. A flexible timetable can be nice, but some regularity is advisable. An employee needs structure, however flexible that structure may be, some framework is needed.

11. Too little wages

You work hard every day, but the wages are not in line? This gives employees the feeling that they do not really count and that they lack appreciation. It is often a source of frustration and thus stress. Be aware of this and take away this source of unease.

12. No future perspective

Not everyone wants to become a manager. However, employees usually find it important to be able to grow in their position or within the company. If there are few or no options in this area, this may lead to dissatisfaction for some employees.

13. Bad atmosphere

Management, staff, the team. A company is a group of people. Often from verybad workplace different people. It is important as a leader to create a good atmosphere. A bad working atmosphere can cause many problems. Employees who drag themselves to work  every day? You should not want to see that.

Final thoughts

Many of you might recognize the above mentioned causes and also many of you might think: so what? I can live through this or things will get better and more of these ideas. I am afraid, however, that this will not cut it. The longer a situation last, the more stress will occur, the danger being that it will gradually sneak in and starts to effect you in ways not clearly visible or in feeling badly initially.

You will risk feeling the adverse effects to your mind and body at a very late stage, which I will explain in my next article. The crux of what I am saying is that you should always take some form of action at an early stage. Even if it means changing jobs or starting your own business.

If you would feel out of place in a corporate structure then this opportunity, becoming your own boss, is for you.

Can your Company be a Happy workplace?


A few office plants, free drinks and a nice Friday afternoon get together once a month – that would be a good start. But a truly stimulating workplace requires a little bit more than that. Why?

healthy officeBecause work stress is the greatest occupational risk of the 21st century. Because of their smartphone, people have the feeling that they have to be available day and night and are quickly distracted by the large amount of e-mails and social media messages. Moreover, open workplaces with a lot of environmental noise and uninspiring office spaces are not conducive to productivity – resulting in extra stress and more working from home.

So, why create a happy workplace?

Although a lot of employees can now work anywhere they want thanks to the internet, cloud and smartphones, they still generally prefer the office as the favorite workplace. Therefore, the one important task for the employer is to create the most ideal working conditions. healthy office
This not only contributes to the good mood and health of their employees, but also helps the organization itself. The happier and healthier the employee, the lower the absenteeism due to illness and the higher the productivity. To achieve this, organizations need to let go of their outdated organizational structures. Only with a hybrid office can employers meet the specific wishes of each employee. What do work happiness, employee experience and employer branding have to do with tea bags? Without a good workplace (with teabags) you are nowhere as an employer.

There is no place like home?

Most people know the statement “there is no place like home”, but the starting point for an employer should be a different one: there is no place like the professional workplace. So no practical, impersonal spaces with suspended ceilings, without atmosphere and other options. That is at the expense of satisfaction, productivity and health. An investment in a well-designed, inspiring office environment is nothing less than an investment in healthy officethe well-being and involvement of employees. Therefore, to remain attractive as an employer, organizations need to implement major changes. The current way of working is completely out of date.

Even with organizations that have once embraced “the new way of working”, there is hardly any freedom of choice. In practice, the new way of working means that you can only choose whether you work at home or in a boring office garden. That is very limited and not at all what people want. They prefer to be at the office, but a one-size-fits-all approach with fixed workplaces offers employees far too little freedom. Companies that do not understand this will lose the battle for top talent. 

Make more human workplaces

Some experts have focused in recent years on “making the workplace more human.” They know how healthy office space and a healthy work culture can make employees flourish.

Where one coach specializes in stress to combat burnout, and the other healthy officefocuses on work-life balance or more exercise, they prefer to look at the whole picture. What does it take to keep people working productively in a sustainable manner?

In this age of war for talent, people are gone after a year or two if they can’t be themselves in the workplace. That is a waste of the investment. People spend so much time at work. Why not make sure that everyone, male or female, of any cultural background, physically healthy or with disabilities, feels at home there? 

Healthy office

“Feeling welcome” is the key concept for them. It sounds abstract, but starts very concretely with a healthy office where there is enough daylight, fresh air and plants – for extra oxygen. Also look at opportunities to move. A standing desk helps, and hold that meeting outside, where you can walk together. Because yes, your body also wants something to stay sharp.

Furthermore, calm colors such as blue and green help to focus. And if you are mad about noise in the office garden, then you should have the opportunity to work in a closed silent workplace or telephone room. People just need different types of spaces. Also to meditate, to pray, or to stay as a young mother. If people can’t be ‘human’ and have to put on a mask, it will cause more friction, stress and burnout.

You take your whole self with you in your work, and luckily so. If people can be themselves, you can see that in job satisfaction. Your employees are then your ambassadors, not your enemy. 

Company culture

For an employer, a positive corporate culture is something to keep in mind. It’s like a muscle, if you don’t train it, it becomes weak. “So give a compliment, and say you see how well someone is committed to you. Read here why this is so important.

healthy officeEven help for financial resilience is part of it. People with problems or financial worries are more distracted and are more likely to get sick. It is not surprising at all to give workshops a few times a year on smart budgeting, or arranging a cheaper mortgage. 

For employers it all seems like a tough job. But it is much simpler than that. Just listen to people. The one needs something different than the other. Let people create and organize what they need. Who knows, they might think of something more inclusive than the Friday afternoon drink or a game of table tennis: for example a quiz or games. Maybe someone is much more competitive than you thought. Then you get to know each other as a person. An employee is a person – with a job title. That’s what it’s about.

The employee experience

The solution lies in a workplace that puts power on the employee: the happy office. This is an environment that offers the same benefits as a “standard” office, such as the possibility of collaboration, contact with colleagues and excellent technological facilities, and at the same time feels like home. The big difference is that the organization does not determine where and how people should work, but only establishes an environment in which employees are given complete freedom and can make their own choices. 

Depending on the task or time of day, the needs of an employee may differ. Whether someone wants to focus, brainstorm or just need a different atmosphere, you have to be able to offer all this in one place. Every day is different. Every activity is different. It is the task of the organization to create the ideal conditions for this. Only then will you keep employees engaged, productive and healthy. The degree of freedom of choice within the office has a strong, positive effect on their involvement.

My own experience

For two years I worked in an industrial environment as a commercial manager, a job with lots of stress. You would have thought that I had a quiet workplace with my staff. However, the office was cramped, next to the factory and only separated by a glass window. The noise from the operational area with allunhealthy offices kinds of machines and hammering/sawing was sometimes ear splitting, such that a normal conversation or a telephone call were not possible. You will say to yourself that you will live through it or that there will be improvement, but hey, no such luck. At the end of those years, although I did not realize it, I was a complete nervous wreck and some of the others too. Yet,our bosses who had quiet offices themselves did not seem to care at all and just demanded the work be done. Suffice it to say that they did not get the best results.

I can tell you one thing: never under any circumstances let this happen to you, as your health is at stake. I know as it took me a couple of years to recover from all kinds of stress related illnesses.

Final thoughts plus recommendation

A welcoming working environment is essential for any employee and I would say for any employer with a good sense of business as well. When people can work as a team in a happy workplace, the results will be optimal, their work the best and the company happy as well. You will keep talented people easily.

On the other hand, when as in my case, the working environment is totally not suited for the work required, people will suffer, mistakes will be made, irritation and frustration will set in and health issues will eventually occur. This should be avoided at all times!

If it happens to you take action by leaving and if this is not easy for you, start preparing your escape route by creating income for your own. I have described here one of the best possibilities that currently exist.

9 Tips on How to use Effective communication Skills at the Workplace


Effective communication in the workplace is important for good cooperation and good results. On the other hand, poor communication will negatively influence the atmosphere and results. It can lead to conflicts at work, misunderstandings, unnecessary mistakes, mutual irritation and reproach, declining job satisfaction and dissatisfied internal and external customers. Nothing good comes from it.

communication very important

It is therefore remarkable that within organizations there seems to be relatively little attention to good communication between colleagues within teams and between departments. I will follow-up with an example and then will give you 10 situations to avoid in order to more effectively communicate.

I said that already! Why did you not understand?

Do you and your conversation partners actually understand each other well? You need to be aware that words you use can mean something different to your boss or colleague. We are nevertheless not geared up to do something about these kinds of vague concepts, with all their dire consequences. Here is what I am talking about.

communication importantTwo colleagues of mine were busy developing a certain measuring instrument. After a number of work sessions, it was almost finished. The only thing they needed was someone who would assess the quality of that instrument with a fresh perspective. I seemed to be the ideal candidate for this.

“Jerry, can you give feedback on a quantitative measuring instrument?” they asked me enthusiastically. I must have stared at them with a glassy look. “Uuuuuh .. well no, I have no idea how to do that.” 

Not much later, I heard them discuss this same measuring instrument. They wondered out loud whether they had formulated the questions properly and whether they were achieving their goal. “Oooooh, but you just want me to check if your questionnaire is scientifically correct? Whether you do good research? ” I said. Yes, we meant that indeed. “If that is what you meant, then I certainly can do it!”

What went wrong?

The above story is a classic example of miscommunication. When we say something, we automatically assume that the other person knows exactly what we mean by certain words, while this is often not the case at all. The assumptions you have for a certain term are different to everyone.

That I thought I could not help them had nothing to do with my abilities. This effective communicationswas simply because we both understood something different by “developing a quantitative measuring instrument.” Based on my assumptions, I concluded that I knew nothing about it.

So, here is the thing. You often do not talk about the assumptions you make when speaking a certain word. And that is precisely what goes wrong very often in mutual communication (how often is very often?). Now suppose your boss says “this year we will improve our customer relationship experience and we will focus on internal cooperation.” And believe me, many people talk like that. Well, what is “improving” and what does he mean by “customer relationship experience”? Let alone how many different interpretations you can you give to the term “focusing on internal cooperation”!

Imagine this: you spend a whole week on a comprehensive plan for that so-called “customer relationship experience”, to find out at the next meeting that this only meant that you would send birthday cards to your customers (lol).

Get clear assumptions

The best solution for this type of miscommunication is: prevent assumptions and define the terms that you use. Do not be afraid to keep asking questions until you know what you expect from each other. If you want something from someone else, make sure you explain this as concretely as possible. 

Furthermore, increase your professional communication skills by avoiding these communication mistakes. Here is a list of the 9 most important communication errors in the workplace and tips on how to deal with them.

1: Being completely focused on your own story
effective communicationIn the conversation you are completely focused on telling your story your way. You forget to understand the whole story and opinion of the other person, resulting in resistance and irritation in your conversation partner.

Instead, try to be more open to the other person’s opinion and the way the other person communicates. What understanding does your partner need to in turn understand you? More space in the conversation? Other arguments?

2: Using words that undermine your story
The words you use can reinforce or downright undermine a story, such as: “You may not like the idea, but maybe I can present it to you anyway?”

It is better to avoid words such as, perhaps,  diminutives and sentences that express submission. You automatically give your conversation partner the power to say that the idea is indeed nothing or that he “has no time for the moment”. Shame, because your ideas could be very valuable.

3: Lacking empathy
In a business conversation you not only have to deal with the actual content, but emotions also play an important role. Discussion partners are sometimes sad, annoyed, angry, happy or feel powerless. Use your empathy and try to put yourself in the other person’s situation and positions. The conversation will be a lot more relaxed and effective.

4: Assuming you know what the other person means
You’ve probably experienced it yourself when someone interrupted you effective communicationimpatiently and finished your story, while you meant something completely different. Very annoying!

No one can read thoughts. Therefore, do not assume in advance that you know what the other person is going to say. Let people talk, listen sincerely and keep asking. Who knows, you may be surprised by a good idea or an interesting opinion.

5: Communicating disrespectfully
You enter a colleague’s room who is busy texting. “Sure you can ask something, I have to finish this message, but I can hear 2 things at the same time,” replies your colleague without looking up. Yes Yes…..

Do you feel taken seriously? Appreciated? In a conversation, people like to have the other person’s sincere attention. It seems like an open door, but who hasn’t even made such a mistake in a conversation?

Interrupting someone, not making eye contact, being on your phone, misplaced humor, looking over someone’s shoulder, talking about yourself all the time, pulling the other person’s story towards you (“Oh yes, I’ve experienced that too.” ). All communication inhibitors that you can better avoid.

6: Brushing someone off
Attack someone personally, completely destroy an idea, berate someone, downplay an opinion. All good methods to brush someone off and to destroy the mutual relationship. If you want to cooperate constructively with someone, talk from yourself and only give feedback on the behavior that you find disturbing instead of attacking someone personally. Take someone seriously, even if you don’t share their opinion.

7: Hurrying colleagues or employees
Impatience is often a strong emotion that others quickly sense. Who doesn’t know a colleague who can hardly bear the patience to listen to you or a manager who is not aware of his rushing leadership style, where everything has to be done quickly. It can paralyze colleagues, make them feel stressed or feel rushed, causing them to perform less.

Are you impatient or do you know you look impatient? Control that emotion for better contact and collaboration with your conversation partner.

8: Let your emotions in the conversation guide you
effective communicationYou feel the anger creeping up from your toes until you feel like you can explode from envy. Your colleague again does not keep to her agreements, your manager lets other managers overcome him. And therefore you cannot do your work. Grrr….

We have all been so angry that we prefer to scold the other person on the spot. Unfortunately, this often results in damaging the relationship with the other person in such a way that collaboration becomes impossible.

The trick is to keep control over your emotions instead of your emotions directing you. Sit back and think about what you can do in the conversation to look back on a constructive conversation afterwards. This way you can look at the conversation with more distance and get the conversation going again.

9: Not communicating assertively
You want to do everything for everyone and saying “no” is difficult for you. You work your way around to get your work done and your colleagues don’t understand that you’re very busy and can’t always get it all done on time.

Do you want to be a colleague who is respected and comes across as reliable? Set your limits by setting your priorities and do expectations management. Communicate clearly about what you can and cannot do and when. By communicating assertively, people know what to expect from you.

Final thoughts + recommendation

Good communication is not a given, sometimes you have to make an effort by thinking carefully about what you say and how you say it. Continuing to pay attention to the development of your professional communication skills will provide you with a more pleasant and relaxed contact with your partners and better cooperation. You no longer make these 9 communication mistakes. Nice is it not?

effective communication

I know this all easy to say, but in practice we oftentimes fail, simply because we are humans. We will be making mistakes everyday. If you are in a position where your boss is the daily culprit, then you are not to be envied. It is not that you can show him this list and ask him or her to act accordingly. Has this been going on for some time? Then take action.

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How to earn Money sitting at Home? – Here is How to do it!


The Corona (Covid-19) virus sweeps through the world leaving many people ill or immobile at home. As already enough has been said and written about the virus, this is not about Corona issues. This is about solutions and new opportunities and making money with them.

how to earn money at homeMy frequent readers will know that this site is for disgruntled employees, people who got fired or quit themselves and for people over 50 years old, who find it difficult to get another job. But now, this virus, which is indiscriminate, is the great equalizer and many people will be at home from work or any other outside activities. 

And then what do you do? You finish the jobs you have to do, complete the chores, but still have more time and could become bored easily. So, why not see this as a unique chance to start making money on the side? There are a hell of a lot of challenges out there, you just need to find the right one. Oh, you maybe do not know how. That is exactly what I am going to explain to you in the rest of this article on making money at home.

Chances for everyone of us

I am now going to be addressing every person among you who sits at home and has time to spare and wants to change a more or less bad situation into a perfect opportunity for making extra money or money on the side. Mine and your starting point would be the internet and its enormous possibilities. Internet use has grown exponentially in the last five years, and right now over 3 billion people all over the world have access to it. 

You see what I mean here? This the biggest market there is, where you could reach millions of people in an easy way. If you know how to do it and have the right support to achieve your goals.earning money at home

Of course you will have to navigate around all the hustlers, shysters, scammers, cheaters, frauds and so on. Part of this site contains product reviews of a number of programs offering money over night, easy income, becoming a millionaire and more of these scams. I can help you avoid losing money unnecessarily, you just ask me when you come across any program that needs vetting and I will study it and inform you quickly.

Your options

You may choose to go your own way or you may accept professional advice, this is totally your choice.

So, here is one way of getting into business, where you do all the research yourself looking at various options available. Such as:

MLM business  in my opinion Multi Leveled Marketing is only suitable for people who already have a very extensive network and have the necessary business acumen.

Selling on E-bay – possible for everybody with a bit of creativity, however, low income.

Selling your own products – possibly the easiest way, as you do not have to buy products.

Do for you (DFY) programs – the owner trying to enlist you with promises of easy money where his “unique” program (that you will have to buy for a lot of money) will do the job for you.

earn money from homeFilling out questionnaires – an easy way to make money, although very little and the number of questionnaires you will receive usually is not guaranteed.

Affiliate Marketing

and many others you may find. If you go this way, that’s fine, but please heed my advice and do not step into all the traps laid out for you there. Do your research and look at reviews or ask me.

Life changing challenge for you

You will have noticed that I did not elaborate on one of the above listed options, affiliate marketing. This is because I consider this method by far the best option available right now. And I am going to expand about this one and tell you why.

First of all affiliate marketing is suited for everybody! From starters to professionals. Again this is true if you can find the right program with the right training and support.earn money at home

Secondly, you will be asked to use one or more of your own passions, hobbies or interests to start up your own website/niche and write about it or them.

Thirdly, you will promote other company’s products within your niche, get a link from your site to theirs and when sold you will earn your commission. No need to buy, stock or deliver any products!

This, in short, is affiliate marketing, as you will operate as an affiliate to these companies. You will apply for their affiliate program and in most cases you will be warmly welcomed. They just love affiliate marketers!

Your decision!

Of course there is a lot more to this program then I described above. I did not talk about the excellent training and tools, the community you become part of, where your questions will be answered within hours, the two training programs available, the possibility to chat any time of the day, the outstanding technical support, access to the world’s best affiliate marketers and so on. Being a member of this program since October 2014, I have written a full review of how this organization works in as much detail as I could, without becoming boring. 

earn money from homeIn there you will also find a listing of the very reasonable cost of a membership, which can be paid monthly, half yearly or yearly. There will be customer testimonials, telling you how other people fared. I have also laid out the pros and cons of this program, so that you will know exactly what is coming to you. You can access this review by clicking here.

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Final thoughts

So, there it is, my number 1 recommendation to you, becoming your own boss by creating your own website(s). You are one small decision away from an opportunity that might change your life for the better.

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Compliments from the Boss – A rare Occasion?


I am sure almost all of you will recognize this situation, happening many times in the workplace. Your boss has given you quite a difficult task, set a deadline and knows that he is stretching your limits. However, you come back with him at the correct time, having done overtime and delivering a nice piece of work.Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion? But your boss just accepts it as normal and did not even make one positive comment about it. Let us be real here, you will feel a little bit shitty, to say the least.

And you are not alone. A quarter of the workers say they never get a compliment, neither from their boss, nor from their colleagues. At the same time it is a known fact that a compliment in due time will ensure more productive employees. Yet, more than a fifth of employees say they do not feel appreciated at work.

I will go on to explain the benefits and power of compliments from the boss as well as the fact that they might be rare on occasions.

The force of a compliment

It seems so obvious to give a compliment if something goes well. Yet we do not do that much in practice. Are we too down to earth? We are more likely to state what goes wrong. This is unfortunate, because a boost is welcome especially in times of economic or company crisis. If you regularly give a compliment yourself, you will also get more eye for the positive in the other. That also makes you happier yourself.

Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion?Compliments bring out the best, because they name the best. The recipient of a compliment will want to display the valued behavior more often. In contrast to negative expressions, such as penalties or sanctions, compliments have a lasting effect. They tend to work longer.

Research has shown that compliments and positive attention motivate more than gifts, a promotion or cash. Compliments activate the reward center of our brain. The amount of dopamine increases and that gives a good feeling. In this way, complimenting bosses will get happier and therefore more motivated and better performing employees.

How to give a compliment

How do you actually make a good compliment? Make sure your compliment is genuine, personal and specific. Only express a compliment about what you really appreciate. It is not a trick! Don’t be too general either. Rather say “You cooked well” than “The food was good.” And it’s better to compliment a great goal than to say “great match.”
And how do you receive a compliment? Simple, just say “Thank you.” Don’t apologize or defend yourself. By trivializing your performance, you undermine the compliment. Why would you?

Focus on negatives

Now knowing the force of compliments the findings in the workplace are pretty remarkable. People really appear to generally be more focused on what’s not going well, however negative and stupid this sounds. It is really amazing that a quarter of the employees receive no appreciation for the work they do at all. Like if these people do not exist in the eyes of management at all. This is detrimental to their motivation. If people do not feel valued, they are less involved with the company and less committed.Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion?

Another remarkable fact.The findings also show that young employees receive a compliment more often than older colleagues. Of the employees up to 34 years old, 15 percent receive a boost nearly every day. For employees aged 50 and over, that is only 5 percent. Almost a thirty percent of people aged 50 and above never get a compliment, with the younger generation that is much less: one in eight employees. Perhaps it is easier for young people to give and receive compliments because they do that a lot on social media. But still.

It is also possible that older employees no longer need confirmation. Older employees have already won their spurs. But it is still important that those colleagues also receive compliments. After all, they too must remain motivated.

Positive self-image

A positive self-image helps us to get through the day. But do we still have an eye for the performance of others? Giving compliments costs almost nothing. But you should be able to see that. You have to have a focus on others, and less on yourself. If the overestimation goes too far and tends towards narcissism, it will be a lot less successful, if not harmful.

It is extremely important to compliment each other. It is one of our most important intangible needs. Belonging and being appreciated, these two are extremely important. From an evolutionary point of view, people cannot live without a group. This is a fundamental principle and therefore everything that points to social exclusion is very threatening to people. Personal appreciation confirms that you are a full-fledged group member. Social exclusion leads to stress.

Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion?By complimenting each other, we emphasize the appreciation for the other, and that supports the positive self-image. That gives you energy to put yourself back in the group. You go that extra mile if the atmosphere is good and everyone appreciates each other. 

The manager plays a major role in this. They must show that they want to give everyone something, because giving is a way of communicating trust. That you have the best for all members of the group. But it must be genuine. 

Compliments do work

I personally believe that managers should give more praise to their employees. Colleagues should also compliment each other a little more often. This may sound a little lofty, but I know from my own experience that this works very well. But bear in mind that there is no need to compliment somebody, when it is not well deserved.Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion?

Employees who are often told “you did well” are generally more enthusiastic about their work and are more productive. These people make a greater contribution to the company. We notice that you as a company have much more success if you regularly give a compliment.


Sociocal (not the real name) pays a lot of attention to complimenting colleagues and bosses. The idea is to start from the things that go well. At the company, therefore, no appraisal interviews are held, but a weekly progress interview takes place and managers keep a yearbook about their people. They record everything that someone has achieved. There are also many compliments in between. 

The company sees a difference since it started giving more compliments. The company has been a great place to work for seven years in a row. They take part in a competition every year and the results clearly show that people appreciate it when you state what they are doing well.

Final thoughts + my recommendation

The importance of complimenting is indisputable.

Yet, many people are still suffering unnecessarily, because the boss and/or colleagues do not care or know about giving compliments.

Compliments from the Boss - A rare Occasion?It would be a great step forward if we would only realize the advantages, so that people would become more productive. The company will benefit at the same time.

This leap forward has not been made yet and for that reason many employees will feel unappreciated, dissatisfied or even worse, will want to stop working at such a company. They are looking for other challenges, changing companies or just quitting.

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Top 12 Signs of what is a Good boss


The quality of managers can make or break a company. No matter how much money you spend on recruitment, good salaries, and good working conditions, if your manager turns out to be a nightmare, new promises run out just as quickly. A good manager, on the other hand, can ensure that talent performs even better and stays stuck longer, no matter how much the competition is pulling at them.good boss vs bad boss

On this site I spend most of the content on bad bosses and advise how to handle them best. But what does a really good manager look like? And what percentage of managers qualify as good? In any case, here are the top ten signs of what is a good boss. And if you cannot find them? Then I can support and advise you to make a radical change in your life, right at the end. You will be surprised at how easy it will be.

Emotional intelligence

How did they arrive at these qualifications for the best managers in the world? Some of the bigger companies did this with an extensive, yearlong study into the characteristics of good management. The most important conclusion of the research? Technical know-how, meaning knowledge of the work process and how to do it, turned out to be much less important for a manager than emotional intelligence. This means that managers should have the ability to understand, use, and manage their own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Kind of the characteristics of a people’s manager. Now it becomes easier to understand what a good boss looks like. 
A good boss possesses the following leadership qualities:

1. Makes work fun

I have heard one boss saying “if you’re not having fun at work, you’re in the wrong job.” How true!

fun in jobWhether you are working a line in a factory, or at the reception area or selling hot dogs, there is always the opportunity to be a fun and productive place to work. Incorporating fun activities, events and organized play-time for employees gives them something to look forward to.

Things as simple as casual Friday or a lunchtime video game challenge can not only be fun – but also a great team building exercise.

2. Sets clear performance expectations

Research concludes that employees experience increased stress levels when they don’t have a good understanding of what is expected of them. So, providing the employee with a very specific job description that lays out all expected tasks that include employee goals, will do the trick.

The boss should discuss and clarify these expectations through a one-on-one conversation, so that there are no misunderstandings. As priorities change, they should continue to communicate updated expectations to provide the employee with an ongoing understanding of their role and job responsibilities.

3. Has a coaching style

A good boss does not solve the problems himself, but turns them into learning moments for the entire team. The boss assists the team members in solving boss should coachthem themselves. He only points the team in the right direction. In this way they gain valuable experience and grow in their work. The employees themselves are happy with the responsibilities given to them and know that when they go wrong somewhere, the boss will help them redirect. This will solve getting rid of unhealthy longtime pressure.

4. Does not engage in micro-management

No employee is waiting for a boss who constantly looks over their shoulder. A good manager does not do that. In fact, he – or she of course – gives employees the freedom they yearn for. The freedom to come up with your own ideas, to take (responsible) risks and to make mistakes. This boss also offers freedom in a practical way, by offering a flexible work schedule and a flexible working environment. The upside of this is that every staff member gains confidence and will go to work with a good feeling.

5. Ensures a good working atmosphere 

nice to workFrom another study, we already knew that employees were most successful in a “psychologically safe” working environment. This means that they feel safe to take a risk among colleagues. They must be sure that they are not punished or mocked if they make a mistake, ask a question or come up with a new idea. The manager’s job is to build this trust among team members. This will all contribute to the well-being of the employees.

6. Is productive and result-oriented

A good boss is not only a star in what he does, but also makes his team members better. The boss motivates the team by setting a good example. This also means that where necessary the boss will help in getting the job done and not just sit idly by. If everyone is already full to the eyeballs, the boss will take some of the work in order to relieve his staff.

7. Communicates as the best

Communication is one of the best tools in human interaction, good communication is a must. Contrary to what many think, it is not only talking, but also listening. You, the introverts know what I mean. The best managers can listen well. This way they understand their team and can act emphatically where necessary. Knowledge is also power. A good boss deals with this transparently and is always willing to share information with the team so that employees understand the “why” behind what they have to do. If a manager can listen well, he or she will very quickly know, if his staff understood what is wanted from them. Misunderstandings will be minimal.

8. Supports career development and discusses performance

A good boss encourages people with sincere, focused compliments, but is also not afraid to express criticism. However, he does that tactfully and constructively. A good boss supports his staff in achieving personal career goals. The team will appreciate the effort he makes for this and pay back in their work. Performance should be discussed at anytime, when necessary and not one time at the end of the year.

This is the one that I have personally known of for some 40 years, yet I have never experienced any of that kind of support. It would have been so nice to have had a career path laid out for you.

9. Has a clear vision for the team

There are many bosses who just want you to do your job, no questions asked. That is just a nuisance to them, they do not care any further.
A good boss knows exactly where the team is, where they need to go and what needs to happen to get there. Good communication helps keep the team on the right track. A good boss ensures that each team member understands his or her individual role in achieving this vision.

10. Can advise the team on work

boss should adviseI have seen new managers coming in and they immediately start directing their people in other ways, based on what these guys had experienced in a totally different working environment, different products, different customers. This will cause discomfort, distrust and an uneasy feeling: “Who is he to tell us what to do?”

A good boss understands the work of the team members, including their daily duties and challenges. If a supervisor is new to the department, he or she must take the time to understand the work and the working method, the process and to build trust. Only then can he or she give advice or make drastic changes.

11. Works in a team effectively

A bad manager can have his team compete with other teams or departments in the same company. Yes, this happens and can greatly distort the working environment and the output. A good boss, however, sees the big picture, is committed to the entire company and encourages team members to do the same. No two teams should be fighting over the same targets, a big waste of time and energy.

12. Stands by decisions

I have seen bosses come back to decisions made, usually without explanations, confusing everybody and leaving his employees in limbo: “Who knows he will change again?”stands by decision

A good boss is not impulsive, but dares to make a decision. He studies the facts and he will be mindful to the different views of the team members before deciding what course to take. He does this without delay – even if he has to make a decision that not everyone will agree with. And essential: when a decision has been made he will stick to it. After all, he will keep seeing the important red line that he has to follow for the best results.

How many good bosses ate there?

It is shown that only one in ten people have the leadership capabilities as indicated above, that is 10% only dear reader! This is not to say that 90% are automatically bad, but they will fail at a good number of traits as mentioned. A good deal of the 90% could be trained to be a better manager, but the outcome might still not be ideal.

In other words, you can consider yourself very lucky when you happened to have the perfect boss, as chances are very small. If you have a boss, who is not ideal, but you can live with, than you are ok too. But what if you have one of these bad bosses, who make your (working) life miserable? Then you can leave for another job, but you will run the risk of encountering another bad-ass. You take the best option and next to your work, you could start for yourself!

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How do you Deal with an Angry boss?


What do you do with a boss yelling at you and making fun of you? Stay quite and let things subside? Report him to HR? Scientists have sorted it out and came up with a surprising answer. It seems best to repay angry bosses with the same measure. Why? You will feel less of a victim and you are happier with your work.angry boss
Before the outcome of this research, I didn’t think it would be beneficial for employees to repay evil with evil, but that’s what was discovered. It is of course better if there is no hostility at all, but if your boss is hostile, in some cases it seems best to act hostile too. 
I will go on to discuss the surprising results of this questionnaire and explain how you could deal with an angry boss. At the end I will discuss an opportunity to end all conflicts with bosses and colleagues altogether, which will change your life completely for the better.

Sending questionnaires to employees

Especially in a working environment you would be cautious with an angry boss sending queriesand certainly not repay evil with evil. However, that exactly is the conclusion experts drew after they sent a questionnaire to some 170 people. In the questionnaire the test subjects were asked about their boss and in particular how often that boss made fun of them or shouted at them. The test subjects were also asked how often they returned evil with evil. For example, by throwing it back right in their face or simply ignoring them. Nine months later, the test subjects again filled out a questionnaire asking how satisfied they were with their job, how loyal they were to their employer and how they were mentally doing.

The surprise results

The research shows that test subjects who were dealing with a hostile boss and did not object to it much experienced more stress and were less satisfied with their job. This comes as no surprise to me, as I always advise to take some form of action in case of any conflict on the work floor. Let conflicts, outcome not expectedissues or anything adverse fester and they will come back to bite you. Burying your head in the sand and thinking that things will be solved just like that, will definitely not help!

And now here is the big surprise. As I said action will be necessary and there are many ways but paying evil with evil paid off: the test subjects who had a hostile boss and returned this hostility did not experience those negative effects. You see they had handled the issue head-on. I know it takes courage to deal with a boss like that and the outcome will not always be positive for the employee, but it can be a successful method of dealing with a particular boss.

Further investigation

But why didn’t those test subjects experience those negative consequences? The second part of the investigation provided the answer. From that research it appeared that test subjects who treated their hostile boss evenly were less employees oklikely to feel a victim of the boss’s whims than the test subjects who did nothing. Surprisingly, these “angry” test subjects also thought that their hostile attitude toward their boss did not adversely affect their career. I guess they sent out a very clear and powerful signal to their respective bosses that something was really wrong and received some kind of a reaction. Maybe the boss became somewhat milder or stopped completely with the abuse.

I would like to make one remark here and that is the time factor of the 9 months mentioned. Who is to say that in that time a resentful boss is not stealthily building a case against the overly angry employee to just dismiss him or her within a year or year and a half? But anyway, most of the test subjects appeared ok.

Satisfied with work

Moreover, the first part of the investigation showed that test subjects who repaid their hostile boss with the same coin were more satisfied with their jobs and more loyal to the boss than subjects with a hostile boss who kept to themselves. The researchers think they can explain that also. Employees who give their hostile boss a good fight back at work could count on the admiration and respect of their colleagues. They think that they could never do that themselves, but yet you did. You grow in their esteem and this will give you more satisfaction in your job.
Now I will take a short look at the manager’s side of this anger issue, just to give you the difference.

The boss’s anger side

As we have seen above, becoming evil could be an effective means of control and sincere anger urges the employee to take action. In this changing world, it is also common knowledge, that managers have had to use their soft skills en shouting bossmass in recent years, and there is more: a good manager shows his feelings. This has been concluded in another study. But in hat same study also concluded that it can be effective for managers to be angry with employees – on the condition that they actually feel that anger.

In other words, if a manager only fakes anger, his staff will immediately know and judge it for what it really is. A phony case of showing who is in power, which will work adversely for the boss and on the group.

Anger is motivating

For example, during crises and in reorganizations, intense emotions often arise. There are good reasons for this, they have a strong function. Of course bosses should prevent tantrums, but that ‘normal’ anger towards employees can actually be motivating. Employees often wait until something happens, they tend to look how far they can go. An really angry boss will create clarity, this is accepted by his staff. Here I can also refer to experiments in which actors played managers. If an actor was pissed off, it was often interpreted as ‘I want action’ and the subordinates immediately grabbed their agendas and went to work. If the actor was lukewarm, the employees took the same message with a grain of salt and went on the way they had started, it will be fine, it was thought.

So, I hope you can see how the other side works as well. Share with us your experiences with angry bosses and your reactions to it.

Final thoughts

The moral of the story? Angry bosses must be repaid in kind? No, not always. I am afraid this depends on the specific situation that you are in. There are other ways that a boss can be dealt with. Have a good conversation with him in a controlled environment, pure businesslike and without emotions. Talk with HR, however, know where they stand (mostly at management side).

happy employeesThe best scenario is still a scenario in which there is no angry boss at all. Sounds like utopia? To me it does, as I have never experienced a fully harmonized working place. After all we are interacting with other people, each one of us having their own flaws.

Therefore the reality is that we all will be confronted with angry bosses, sooner or later and you better prepare for it. If you really want to go for it, then shout at him in his office (make sure others can hear, but not see it). You must be sure that you stand in your right. Each and everyone of you can start preparing for such an occasion and feel comfortable at the same time, because you have an escape route!

And here it is!

In your free time and next to your existing job, you will spend some hours becoming your own boss. You do that by being an affiliate marketer, operating your own website, having a niche of your passion, promoting merchant’s products, selling the product and making money on the side. And you will be doing so with the help of the best community in the world. It is scam free, excellent support, reasonably priced and the first week will be free, without any commitments from your side.

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Fighting at the Workplace – Not a conversation, but sometimes War!


Everyone of us has, at one point in time, had a difference of opinion with a colleague or a boss. This is quite normal in an environment where people are operating close together, such as in a working environment. The arguments will come to light when they are related to important matters, who getswar of words promotion, who has the biggest salary raise, division of labor, competition clauses and so on. Research shows that as many as one in five employees in 2016 had a fight with a colleague or boss. But sometimes minor irritations get out of hand and create an unworkable situation, sometimes leading to a short war. How do you ensure that a fight does not become a real labor dispute? Or worse a war? Or can a war of words sometimes cleanse the air between people? Just read on and find out.

Never had a fight?

Are you one of those people who say they never have disagreements? Sorry, but that is pure nonsense, everybody has: quarreling is part of the equation. And you should not be afraid of a disagreement. Do not avoid a conflict. But also be critical of yourself. Do not remain stuck in your own right. And watch out for well-intended advice from the home front. They show empathy for your feelings, but that helps not always to solve something. 

Personal aspects also play a role. How does someone feel and how are they doing at home? Does someone want promotion, but is it unsuccessful? Do you think that you are not appreciated enough or that you do not earn enough? You see, sources of unhappiness enough.

Two types of fights

war at workExperts in the matter say that there are two types of conflict, hot and cold. In hot conflicts it is literally hot. People make noise with doors, run red in the face, are irritated and angry and talk or argue very loudly. And then there are the cold conflicts. They are more subtle, they are slumbering. People do not talk to the colleague with whom they have a problem, but they do talk about it with others. Or they gossip.

In any case, both types of quarrels need to be attended to immediately. Letting things fester is the worst that can happen.

Culture of fear?

I feel that the latter of fight (the cold one) is more common. The reason is that people have trouble speaking about it. Saying that something is wrong or you feel that something is wrong often does not happen. There is a kind of fear culture. 

Causes of conflicts at work

Lack of appreciation
Work pressure due to lack of time

And talking about it is important. The longer you wait, the worse it gets. Many people think over time: now it no longer makes sense, it is already too late. And it often turns out that people think they have done something about it, but that in reality it is often not true at all. 

Very different feelings

That is a pity. It may sound a bit like fiddling, but see a conflict as an opportunity. It is part of your private life and your working life as well. And you can make it move you forward. That is why people should be conflict-solving and not try to look the other way. not talk about conflict

What makes it sometimes difficult is that what someone can feel as a major conflict or a quarrel, does not feel that way at all for the colleague or manager in question. It is a matter of perception. People who focus on cooperation sometimes see a difference of opinion more quickly as a conflict. While people who are more of a negotiator or a fighter do not regard it as a fight at all.

Example of an engineer

And conflicts arise out of stress due to problems at home. For example, there was a software engineer who had clearly been at his limits for a while. When he was approached by colleagues, he was very irritated. Mediation made it clear that he was stressed by his home situation. To sort this out, understanding among colleagues was created and the issue was resolved quickly. 

talking is betterTwo elements play a role in every conflict. To start with: uncertainty about the business agreements. Because if people don’t know what to expect from each other, problems easily arise.

The second is the relationship with others. How do we deal with errors and how do you work with others? In companies where a lot of attention is paid to cohesion, for example by organizing drinks parties and company parties, you see fewer conflicts. Because you get to know people better outside work, you get more understanding for each other. 

Resolving the fight

Resolving or preventing a conflict can best be summarized by the motto: do not deny what you really feel. If something is bothering you, you have to do something about it. Talk to the person with whom you have a conflict. If necessary, go to a supervisor, someone from human resources or a counselor/mediator.

Because that is the most important thing to prevent conflicts at work. You have to talk about it openly. People often don’t discuss it. Then it gets bigger. And for such a conversation it is important to think: what would it ideally look like? What would work well for me? people never thought about that beforehand. 

The war option

So, now back to the hot option. In an example, a mediator speaks about handy tips on how to settle disputes nicely. Not gossiping for example, staying civilized and not exploding or shouting loudly, yeah right. I agree that this will have some effect, but that is not the answer to everything. All good and well but sometimes the soft touch will not work and it is all out war (lol).

That goes like this: People goggle at people who do wrong. They make passive aggressive jokes. They throw with doors. Oh yes, and that loud call on the war at workbalcony this afternoon drowned out the sound of the monthly fire alarm drill. Furthermore, during the fight, they completely forget to convey the soft message while the mediators agree that it is better to say to lazy John of logistics: I have some difficulty with you submitting your figures so late, because that slows down my work and makes me feel nervous in my belly, instead of “Asshole!” Hurry up, you are always late, you are such a dick! In addition, you should not use sentences with the words ‘always’, ‘never’ combined with you because that removes every nuance from the conversation .

In this case, arguing is not a conversation. It sometimes is war. Of a temporary nature of course. And of course you can follow all sorts of  conflict management courses at the office. But you can sometimes make the whole thing go wild. No civilized exchange of thoughts. Simply: boom, go for broke and face the consequences!

Your escape route

Do I believe this all out war works? Well in some cases it does as colleagues have a plan Band bosses might think that they have really upset the employee and feel guilty about it. Yes, this might happen.

However, in most cases the soft touch will work better, because one wrong word, hitting the wrong tone, showing anger in public especially with your boss and you are dead in the water. But do you need to be afraid of that?

In my humble opinion, you should not be afraid, as you have already prepared yourself for this situation. You were expecting trouble ahead, maybe a sudden lay-off, or to be made redundant or ending up in a fight. So, as anybody in a job should have, you worked on your personal escape route.

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Networking for a Job: Good for some, not for All


Bored of cocktail parties, talking to many people you hardly know about trivial things, hardly anybody listening to you? If you have this attitude, then you are building a networkprobably not very good at networking. Yet most of the jobs are filled through this method. Many applicants and job seekers are looking for a job or vacancy in the wrong place. Every day and every week they look for vacancies in newspapers or on the internet. But what is the reality? Only some 30% of vacancies are directly visible through newspapers, trade journals or the internet, whilst around 70% of vacancies are not immediately visible and go through a network.

Not many people know

This came to me only after researching about networking. I knew that people get jobs through this method, but did not realize that most jobs do not even make the paper or the internet. If you are like me, you might hate networking, however, in this article I will attempt to take away some of the misunderstandings. It might help you to realize that it is not what it seems at first glance. To take away one wrong thought right from the start: networking means asking for a job. It is not, it is asking for information. I will explain how this is supposed to work and what you can do to take part. Networking is good for some, but not so good for others. If you are in the last category, I will give you an entirely different way out at the end of this blog. Let me start with the definition.

What is networking?

To get a good idea of what networking can mean when finding a job, you first attending to partiesneed to know what the definition of networking is. If you consult any dictionary, networking is described as follows: it is the creation, development and maintenance of social contacts in order to obtain information that can be used to your advantage in your profession or career. You see, asking for information puts less pressure on people than asking for a job!

How people react to networking

Experience has shown that some elder people find a job more easily via networks than by sending application letters. For many people, the word “networking” unfortunately has a negative connotation. When it comes to networking, they mainly have the image of business networking at business meetings by people in a tight suit, with a drink in hand and a smooth chat. The idea of ​​finding a job in this way scares many. In addition, “I don’t have a network at all” is often the first response and “I’m not good at selling myself at meetings like that” is usually the second. I am afraid I was one of these people.

But again read the definition of networking at the top of this article. It clearly states that networking means that you are trying to get information to help you find a job. If you expect that you will have a ready-made job waiting for you through networking, then you have a wrong view of networking. Networking can help you to get one step closer to your dream job. That is the its power. Of course easier said than done, so what to do?

Creating a network takes time

networking takes timeIf you are reading this right now and you think you should start, you may be too late. Creating a network actually continues throughout your life. People are coming in and people are hopping out, because this is an ongoing process. The good news is that you can of course start with it at any time. Creating a network takes time and effort. You do not do this overnight. But as you will see most of us already have a basis for a network. Let’s get to it.

How to build a network

Before you start networking, you should have a good idea of ​​what you can do, what skills you have and what you are looking for. This will be your starting point. Then follow below four steps in the order given.

Step 1: Certainly people who have been without a job at home for a while often have the idea that they have no network. Fortunately that is not correct. Your network starts with the people closest to you: tell your family, friends and acquaintances that you are looking for a job (and what kind of a job!). This is going to be your core network.

Step 2: Here is where social media get more important. you will try to get into the second ring: family of family, friends of friends and acquaintances of acquaintances. Look for a family member or a friend with an extended network!

Step 3: Approach former school mates and colleagues, friends at sports clubs and hobby clubs. In short, everyone who could already be in a network, but you did not know that they formed your network. Contact people again. Even if this is a while ago. Renew these contacts. LinkedIn is an important tool for reviving contacts. Make lists of these contacts and add where you know them and what they do. In this way you build up your network and this results in valuable new to network

Step 4: Approach people you don’t know at all! Right here social media can help greatly, after all, you are not asking but looking for a job and just want information.

Maintain your network

This part is often forgotten. Maintaining a network takes time, but the time you invest in it can be invaluable. So regularly send a message to your contacts, pick up the phone or agree on meeting with them. Don’t just walk past these “old” contacts at meetings because you are focused on making new contacts. Stay connected with your entire network. Old and new!

Do this consequently and continuously and you are also expanding your network!

What do you need for successful networking?

I said before that networking starts with a good knowledge of yourself. So what are you looking for? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Do you have good communication skills?
Good communication skills include:
Can you have a good conversation?
Can you listen well?
Can you interpret non-verbal signals?
Can you present yourself? Do you know how you come across with someone else? Your attitude can also deter people from contacting you. Be aware of this.

what do you need for networkingAs a networker you must be alert. Do you dare to seize opportunities when they arise? You must be very alert to the conversations around you. What do you hear, what do you notice? Save that information and do something with it. But be spiritually present at the conversation you are currently having. There is nothing worse than being in a conversation with someone who always lets his eyes wander in search of a more interesting conversation partner.

You must also have a helpful attitude. You are not only there to take but also to give. Exchange information if you can help someone else with that. That creates trust and it will also make it easier for you to be called upon. A goal of networking is also to build trust in your network.

What do you ask your conversation partner?

It sounds very logical, but tell your conversation partner that you are looking for a job. You may ask who you should contact if you are looking for a job in a certain industry. Never give your CV, but ask specific questions. A conversation lingers better than a cached CV. Often the recipient cannot even remember who the giver was. A nice conversation stays in the memory for much longer.
If you keep in mind that you are looking for a job, you can also steer a conversation in the right direction. By asking specific questions, you can integrate your job search into the discussion. If you receive tips, immediately follow them up. Don’t miss an opportunity by waiting too long.

What to do being an introvert?

What do you do when you are like me, being more of an introvert? You hate all these parties and senseless talking, but here is the thing. People who arewhen you are an introvert introverted don’t have to worry that they are bad in networking. On the contrary, they have advantages over extroverted people. Introverted people can listen very well, they let the other person talk first and they feel heard.

Introverted people are also good at observing. They look closely at the person they are talking to, and they are often very curious – they are more open to new things.

So, do you think you have got what it takes? Then go ahead and try it out.

On the other hand, I know there are people out there who can’t be bothered by all this. If you will indeed have nothing of it, then why not follow my number one recommendation to eventually get out of the corporate jungle?

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